Visiting someone who has just lost a loved one can feel tricky. You want to support them but might be unsure what to say or do. The key is simple: be genuine and respectful of their feelings. Showing up with a warm presence often means more than any words could.
Start by choosing the right time. It's best to visit within the first few days after hearing about the loss, but always check if the family is ready to receive guests. A quick call or message beforehand can help avoid showing up at a difficult moment.
During the visit, keep your words simple. Express your sympathy by saying things like, "I'm so sorry for your loss," or "I'm here if you need anything." Avoid clichés or trying to explain why the loss happened; it’s better to listen than to offer explanations.
Offer your support practically. Instead of saying "Let me know if you need help," offer specific assistance like bringing meals, helping with chores, or running errands. Grieving people often don’t have the energy to ask for help.
Give space if the person seems overwhelmed. Some may want to talk and share memories, while others may prefer quiet. Observe their cues and follow their lead. Remember, a condolence visit is about them — their feelings and needs take priority.
After the visit, you can send a follow-up message or card to show you continue to care. Grief doesn't disappear quickly, so ongoing support is meaningful. Taking these simple steps will help you comfort someone genuinely and make your condolence visit as helpful as possible.
Nigeria's First Lady, Senator Oluremi Tinubu, extends her heartfelt condolences to the Saraki family in Lagos following the passing of their matriarch. Her visit underscores her dedication to comforting families during times of mourning, particularly the family of former Senate President Bukola Saraki.
